Saturday, October 1, 2011

Time to move on

Relationships are never easy, right? When two people get together you are bound to have differences. You like vanilla and he likes chocolate. You're a morning person, he loves to stay out late. You love cats and he wants a dog. 


But you work it out. You compromise. You go out on a date once a month and stay out as long as he wants to. You buy Neapolitan ice cream (and give the strawberry to the dog that you compromised for). 


But sometimes it just doesn't work. No matter how hard you try to make it work the other half of your life just wants to give up. He's had enough. And at that point you need to realize that its over. 


You need to stop wallowing in self-pity and pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get on with your life. You need to stop being afraid of what's out there and get on with it. Life goes on and so will you. Friends and family will gather round you like a circle of wagons and protect you. They will be there for you to talk to, cry with and eventually laugh with at the end of the long dark tunnel that you see before you. That dim light you see far, far away ... its your new life waiting for you. 



But in order to move on and open yourself up to a new relationship you also have to take responsibility for the one you are leaving. 

Maybe you weren't supportive enough in the things he did. Maybe you left the cleaning up to him. You might not have been motivated enough in your business life to strive for more, to make yourself better. Yes, even lazy. Maybe you suffocated him in the relationship. Not allowing yourself the freedom to do things outside the two of you.

And after you have allowed yourself to forgive, you and him, its time to move on. 

Time to say good-buy to the house that he made a home.


Time to leave the tree's that you planted in the yard that flourished more then the relationship did. 


Time to split up the things you have collected and cherished over the years. 


Time to do what's right for you and move on when you finally realize that nothing you do or say can fix the last few years together. 


Time to move on. 

3 comments:

  1. David,

    You are such a beautiful person---your writing reflects it so well, We are trying to call you to talk to you,

    Love,

    Mom and Dad

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  2. so sorry!! saying goodbye is never easy... and years?? aaaaww man!! wishing you peace and be kind to yourself

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  3. It's always tough to move on, won't even try to sugar coat it, but this difficult times shall pass and you will be ok. I made it through hard times such as this and I am in the best place now.

    YOu're one of the most wonderful I know and someone there will appreciate you.

    Love u
    Michelle Browne

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