A millionaires check list , based on today's Power Ball, $400,000,000

Hollywood Hills house ($20,000,000)

A penthouse in NYC ($45,000,000)

Laguna Beach house ($10,000,000)

House on Lake Como ($15,000,000)

Paris pied-a-terre ($7,000,000)

Rolls Royce ($375,000)

Charity (undisclosed) True charity is anonymous

Total $97,375,000 +

Man , I'm I shallow. And yes ... I've put some thought into this.

What are we thankful for?

   Thanksgiving day. A day for getting together with family and friends. A day for eating. A day for drinking. But most of all a day to sit back and really count our blessings.

Things I am thankful for ...

Cher
My job, that I love
My house
My hair
My cat(s) and dogs, past and present
My ability to love and be loved
My Mac stuff
My relationships
My ability to drive to the store and buy whatever I need
My LV briefcase
And of course all my family and friends. 

The list can go on and on but I'll stop here. I am one lucky guy.
What are you thankful for?

Does grief have an expiration date?

   As a kid my family had many pets. Dogs, cats, rabbits, hamster ... well you get the idea. We were (are) an animal loving family. I don't actually remember having to say good-bye to any of them other then Denver, my beloved hamster. Maybe my parents spared me the pain. Maybe as a kid I didn't understand the concept of death. Or choose to ignore it. 

   I lost my dog Bruce to a ruptured tumor last week. It was sudden and fast. With in an hour of taking him to the vet he was gone. Just 24 hours ago I could not even think about him, let alone write about him without having a complete meltdown. The kind that makes your insides come to the surface and want to leap out of your body. For the last 10 days I've ignored my family and friends. I barely left the house let alone my bed. I just wanted to wallow in the pain. The pain that nobody could ever understand. It was all mine. And only I could feel it. I honestly believed that. I have since wised up. 

   Bruce was the first dog I had as an adult. I got him at  6 months and he left me at 10 years old. The pain I felt rivals nothing I've ever felt before. I've said it before but I'll say it again. I've lost family and friends but the loss of a beloved pet is a different pain. Neither loss is better or worse, but it is different. 

Now I'm dealing with the guilt. The guilt of not grieving. The guilt of not losing my shit every time I think of him. The guilt of being able to walk past a picture of him with out falling to my knees (literally) and sobbing. The guilt of being able to talk to others about how much joy he brought to my life without stopping in mid sentence and choking up. 

   As humans we have an incredible resilience system in place. We lose, we grieve, we move on. The point between grieving and moving on is different for all of us. But we eventually do move on. Can you imagine holding on to all our loses for our entire lives. Every loss we suffered chipping away at our hearts until it was impossible to get out of bed. Impossible to face another day? This is what makes it possible for me to write this tribute to the Almighty Bruce. 

   And the tears come, hallelujah ! What little guilt that was left is now lifted.

To all my republican friends ...

I know I go on and on about politics and how much I do not want Mr. Romney as our next President. Maybe if I "bullet" point some points you might understand my emotional outbursts.


- Mr. Romney's religious beliefs are not mine. They are his and should be kept in his place of worship with others who believe what he believes. He is free, as we

 all are, to practice his religion in and out of the church but just not in OUR (as in yours and mine) government.

- I am a gay man. That does not define all that I am but I do not want a president in office who thinks I am a second class citizen and does not deserve the same civil rights all other Americans receive solely based on my sexual orientation. Sexual orientation NOT sexual choice.

- I believe woman are equal to men. They deserve the same respect that men get in and out of the work place and in their personal lives. They have a right to do with their bodies as they choose. Please don't take that statement as "Pro-abortion" ... I am not. As a man I can not imagine the mental pain and anguish a woman faces in her choice. Her choice, not the governments. I am for educating children and young adults in the ways of the world. Not misleading them.

- Every American is entitled to healthcare. It should not be based on your socioeconomic status. I do not believe this as a hand out. As the wealthiest nation on earth we can afford it. I will be honest, I don't know all the in's and out's of Obamacare but neither do I know what Mr. Romney has in mind. And until then ...

- I believe in helping people who need help in a time of need. Not a hand out but a help up. I do not begrudge anybody who makes a large income the right to spend it the way they see fit. But just remember ... There but for the grace of God (go I). Yes I referenced God. But I'm not running for president ... yet.

I hope this helps, if you were even are curious. I guess I assumed you are just by the fact that I wrote it. Kind of egotistical of me I guess.

Now a note to my Dem friends ... this post is not to instigate a name calling, mud slinging discussion. Is it purely an opinion piece. A piece to help my friends understand my reasoning in this very emotional election. 







If you do post a reply please be kind and caring. I'm sure I'll have many more where you can let loose.

Peace,

David

Do you own a Macintosh

No, I use a MAC. 

That was my response years ago before I got hooked. Boy have things changed. 

As you know the iPhone 5 was announced today. Every time I hear that I have to stop and ... breathe. 

Stylish

Hip

Sleek

Sexy

Iconic

Must have

Cutting edge

And so on ...

These are all words that run through my head when I see any Apple product. As far as I'm concerned they are the most brilliant marketing team on earth. What other company "debuts" the SAME product every year and STILL has people lining up around the block to throw down hundreds of dollars for something they already have? Only this time it's "better" then before. Faster. Sleeker. Shinier. Thinner. Clearer. Sexier. Hipper. 

Can you imagine your cable company doing that? 

     We here at "Better-then-last-year-Cable" have just introduced the new and improved ABC4000 ! Bigger, wider, louder, smaller, quieter, shorter ! The must have of the season*. 

*Oh and we are going to make you stand in line for hours AND pay us at least $199.00 for it, again. Only to reintroduce a new and improved one in 11 months. Oh and also ... the plugs are different. So you'll have to buy an adaptor or all new DVD players that will fit. And you know that case grandma knitted ? Well that's not gonna fit anymore either. She'll have to knit a new one. Oh, she's passed? So sorry. 

Really? We wouldn't stand for it. But if Apple does it, we melt into zombies ... I must have. I must have.

Myself included. Trust me, I'm not bashing any Apple fans. I am one of the biggest nerds when it comes to Apple drugs products. 

Apple is my drug of choice. My fix. I will be standing on the corner of Apple and Mac on Sep 21st , in my jammies if need be with the rest of the junkies. Extending my arm for a fix. 

Hit me up Steve. Ahhhh ... that's the stuff.

By the way ... if you thought you'd get some good advise ... what is the new operating system it uses, is it faster, if Siri can now answer the question "What is the meaning of Life" ... you weren't paying attention. I DON'T CARE WHAT IT DOES. I need it. And I will have it.

I had no idea.

Being the gay man that I am I like to think that I am stylish, knowledgeable about current events and fashions, spiritual, helpful, sensitive, loving, non judgemental, a mama's boy ... well you get the idea. I like to think as myself as a well rounded gay, I mean guy. But never have I ever considered myself powerful. Powerful enough to have future leaders of the free world trembling at the thought that one day I might be able to enter into matrimony with another man. 
Powerful enough that these same powerful men spend hours, days, weeks trying to stop me from having the same rights as everybody else. The same rights that we have in many many other countries. 


If you have been watching the news over the last few years you would have seen a lot of "gay" stories. 


Entire churches ranting about the end of the world as we know it all because of who I love and want to marry. 


Churches spending tens of millions of dollars trying to stop me from declaring my love for another man.


Religious leaders calling for gays to be rounded up and put behind fences and starved. That one really made me chuckle, after I got over the rage.


Politicians hiding behind Bible verses.


I see a pattern here. 


As a child I was brought up in a semi-religious home. I did attend Sunday school, I did attend church on Sundays, occasionally.  
My family went to midnight mass on Christmas Eve. But that was about it. For organized religions.


One year I was visiting my parents in Texas for Christmas and it was time to get ready for midnight mass. My Grandmother loved midnight mass so my father would take her and anybody else who wanted to go. It was 1130pm and way past my bedtime, even then I went to bed early. Anyway I didn't want to go. My mom came and sat down beside me on the couch and said "Is it because the church is so against gays? That's why I won't go anymore". I didn't have the heart to tell her I was just tired.


Love your fellow human. Treat others with kindness and respect. Help out those less fortunate then you. Be kind to animals and all living things. 


That in a nut shell sums up my family's religious beliefs and my feelings about organized religion.


My family does believe in God. We believe he is a loving and caring God. We believe that their are many beliefs in the world and one is not better then the next. 


I kind of went off track. Power. Yes, that was the topic at hand. Anyway, who knew a kid from a small town in Florida could have so much power in the world. So much so that the most powerful men in the world want to stifle my rights for fear of ... fear of what? 


Happiness?

Time to let go

One year ago today my partner of 15 years decided it was not working out for him. He didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I knew way before he told me.

In October I wrote about it being "Time to move on". I didn't. I couldn't. I didn't know how. I was angry, hurt, deceived and all the other emotions you feel when a relationship ends. I wrote about forgiving, forgetting and starting over. Easier said then done.

I realized I was not doing the most important thing. Being honest. So here it goes. Honest with me and the universe. 

I feel hurt. 
I feel deceived. 
I feel used.
I feel neglected.
I feel angry.
I feel fat.
I feel ugly.
I feel old.
I feel unloved.
I feel vulnerable.

I have felt all these emotions in the last 3 to 4 years. Sometimes all in the same day.

I hated him, I hated me. At one time or another I hated everyone. Hate can manifest itself in many ways. It hides in your soul and comes out to bite anyone who happens to be in the general area. If you don't free yourself of it your insides will turn black and you may never recover. But how? How do we get rid of this bile from with in?

With honesty. Honesty with others but most of all honesty with ourselves. 

Honesty -
My ex and I are done. We had our time and I would not trade it for the world. I love(d) him and he love(d) me. 

Honesty - 
I hate(d) him for not fighting for our relationship. But do I really want someone fighting for something that was not in their heart?

Honesty - 
I envied him for being so ... so ... so damn effervescent. I wanted to be like him, on all the time. Then I got to thinking ... how exhausting. Envy in not a good thing in a relationship. Admiration is. I had that for him too but not enough. Thats way its so important to work on ourselves. A great women once said "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"

Honesty - 
I hate(d) myself for being such a slug. Yes ... I am (was) a slug. I can now tell it to the world. I am (was) lazy. I have always wanted things handed to me. With minimal work. But I'm getting help with this. Thank you Dr. Joel.

Honesty - 
I dislike the fact that I never finish anything I start. Until lately.

Honesty - 
I lie. I lie to myself. I lie to others. I lied to him. Mostly about money but a lie is a lie. Yes, I am attending LA (Liars Anonymous)

Honesty-
I need help. I have never denied this fact. I actually kind of prided myself on it. Being in need of repair kind of gave me an excuse for all the above. 

So, there you have it. My honesty. I'm sure I could go on for a long time about this but this is a start. My therapist told me tonight that I have come a long way since I first started with him. I like that. I'm growing. 

Maybe even moving on.